Sometimes we do
fall in love not with a person, but with the idea of a person. The perfect idea
of it.
Not even from a
touch of a hand, not even from a warmth of a hug. It can simply come from a
glance at the eyes or just a look on the face.
Just as the word
“fall”, when we fall, it’s not something that we plan. Most of the time, we
don’t even want to fall. So does with the “fall in love”.
The scenario
would just be so simple when we have spent many times with a person we feel
most comfortable with, and the understandings have been created between one
another. So that the cupid can come and make both parts fall in love. But it’s
not always as that simple.
If people say
that we can fall in love due to many reasons. It can be due to the touches we’ve
had with the person we’ve fallen with. Or due to the intentions, the care have
been given, the times spent together, the memories created, the kisses, and
mostly the kindness.
But how if what
makes you fall is not something reasonable. How if you haven’t even touched,
what you’ve had was not so memorable, and the time you’ve spent was so short?
How if the touches you’ve gotten were only some shakes of the hands or even a
friendly hug? How if all the things ever happened between you and that person were
only the uncontrollable things due to many reasons such as the high feeling you
got after drinking too much? Or due to the lonely feeling you’ve had? Because
if that’s so, everything ever happened to you and that person was not so
intended or not so meant to be. The kisses were not purely because you both
feel something, probably it was because you guys were so lonely or so drunk to
realize. Or the hugs were not so special as how you expected because probably
they were only the friendly ones? How if those things happened? It should not
cause the love then.
But how if the
heart is so stupid? How if by those unreasonable causes, the heart still say
that you are falling in love with that person? It still should be fine
actually. But since the reasons why you fall are unreasonable ones, this means
that mostly the person you fall in love with, never even count those things to
make them fall in love back to you.
Then there we
fall in love with the idea of that person we fall with. At the end of the day,
we just realize that it’s not that actually we do fall in love with the person,
because everything we’ve had with the person was not memorable and not special
at all. It was the person that is special.
At the end of
the day, what makes a person who falls in love feel so stupid is the
realization of that person, knowing that she/he is actually falling in love
with the idea of someone. Not with someone. It is the shape of the body that we
fall in love with, not the presence of the person. It is the face that we fall
in love with, not the smiles. And it is the skin that we fall in love with, not
the touches.
And wanna know
the worst part of that? It’s the another effect that makes you put your
standard so high. The imagination of the perfect idea of a person that we fell
with, makes us putting a standard too high on only wanting the next person we
will fall in love have to be like that person, or even better looked than that
person.
It is sad that
once you’ve tasted a perfection of an idea of a person, you will keep rejecting
the good ones that are coming, just simply because they don’t fit your
imagination, just simply they are not as perfect as your idea of that person
you fell with.
The thing is,
love is just love. We can say that we can try to love something, or someone,
but most of the times, love just happens and just comes in any possible and
impossible ways.
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